A Letter To My Son.
Charles, Charles, Charles.
Right now, you're destroying my house and you're super quiet but I am going to assume you're probably just ripping each and every wipe out of the wipe dispenser.... oh well!
I want to start off this letter by letting you know how amazing you are. There are going to be so many good days, and so many bad - I want to be there for both. I want you to know how special you are to me, there isn't a day that flies by where I don't pinch myself and wonder how I got so lucky. Charles, you're one of a kind, but I want to give you these few pieces of advice, so bear with me.
Be kind. Not just to your friends, peers and elders, but be kind to everyone, yes even the guy who just cut you off or budged in front of you. You don't know what kind of day, week or year they've had... so just be kind.
Never settled for less. If it's one thing that your father told me, was to never EVER settle for less than you deserve. Work towards the best always.
Do your chores. Please, just do it. It's not to piss you off or to be mean. It's to teach you how the world works and to set you up for living by yourself.
Eat you veggies. Yes, I know right now your diet consists of chicken strips, fruit source bars and apple slices, but eat your veggies, fruits and everything thats good for you! Your doctor and your body will thank you.
Set boundaries with people. Don't let people take advantage of you. You're worth so much more than that! Speak up, stand up for yourself and don't let people make you feel bad for being you. You're allowed to remove toxic people from your life and you don't owe them an explanation. Follow your heart and speak your truth.
Stay active. Don't follow the idea that you need to look a certain way to fit into society, but do follow the idea that taking time to be active will benefit your body more than just physically. It's going to settle any uneasy thoughts, clear your mind, it's going to help you feel confident and charge your body. And remember, you can't pour from an empty cup, take time (20 mins, 40 mins, 4 hours) a day to do something that recharges you.
Budget you money. This is something I did from the age of 13 and still do as an adult. Pay your bills, mortgage, rent, car payment BEFORE you buy anything else. Having a roof over your head and a way to get to work comes first. The rest you can worry about after, but please, budget your money.
Please be nice to girls. You don't want to be that guy.... Ask for consent, be courteous, and don't think it's okay to be mean to a girl just because you like her. That's bullying and it's not going to get you very far. I know that there will come a time where you may have to break someones heart, or vice versa... but be nice. Practise empathy always.
And if girls aren't your thing, just know that we will always accept you!! But please, still be kind, empathetic, ask for consent and always be kind.
Don't ever stop learning. Just because you have a PHD or have a Red Seal, doesn't mean that you don't need to stop learning. This world is constantly changing... be understanding of that and go with it!
Honestly, this is just a list of 10 things and there is probably 3493932 more things I could put on here. But, I think that as long as you practise these things, everything else should be easy... ish - because there are so many ups and downs!
My last thing to say to you is to have fun, always. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh and happy! You deserve to be happy, always.
You'll never know how much you mean to your father and I, and if we have one wish for you is that you find what ignites your passions and you remain to always laugh.
And like I always say "I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as you're living, my baby you'll be."
With love always,
Your mama xo